Furthermore…

Yesterday when I was doing my wash I had to wait a while until the machine finished so I turned on the radio and landed on a Christian program. The host or pastor or whoever he was was grilling some guest about why he didn’t get married (for a while - he’s married now). When I say grilling, that’s how it seemed. I thought if it was me I would have been real uncomfortable and would have told him to buzz off from trying to fit me into his agenda for the sexes.

Many Christians, like the host, assume that a single person will feel impelled to actively look for the ‘right’ mate, and that’s all right as far as it goes, but the host of this program seemed to be going too far in giving this guy the business because he hadn’t seemed to observe the proscribed pattern closely enough.

The guy didn’t seem to mind, and answered all the nosy-seeming questions readily, but I got to thinking, I never felt a need or ‘duty’ to look for a marriage partner, and I knew at some level that I wasn’t the marrying type or marriage material. I did want to ravish, enjoy and roll around with all the sexy women who passed nearby like ships in the night, but actually did little ravishing, as I didn’t consider myself sufficiently endowed with the requisite good looks, smooth lines, or disposable lucre.

There seems to me a mindset connected with being successful with women which assumes women are vulnerable dependent creatures that need to be protected, directed, and romantically conned.  That seems like an insulting way to think about or treat other people.

 I always wondered, when will some interviewer with a clipboard come to me from some all-seeing social agency checking up on whether I am living up to all that is expected of me along the lines of relating to the opposite sex. Maybe that’ll be done in the future by some intrusive social agency yet to be legislated, in keeping with the busybody tendency of some to mind everyone else’s business.